Something that I have seen among some bloggers is their pendulum swinging to the extreme far right when it comes to their position in their family. It usually happens when someone has made them feel so guilty for having personal interests outside their families, that they feel they have to give up everything so they can care for their homes better. I'm ALL FOR keeping a tidy home. If my home gets too far behind I go nuts and no one in my family likes when mommy goes nuts. But I'm not in support of mommies having nothing outside of cleaning baseboards, washing mud off shoes, and slaving over the kitchen stove.
As a woman of faith, they may be informed that their home is the priority and I can understand that and I do believe the same way. Our homes and families are a priority in our lives. But let's challenge ourselves a bit so we can find balance and freedom in that. If we view our homes and families as our 'careers' as we view our husband's jobs as their careers then does that mean he also must work 24/7? If a mom and wife is to commit all her life to the home and family then does that mean the husband must commit his whole life to his place of employment?
Doesn't the dad get to come home at night and rest, enjoy the family and maybe go golfing a couple times a month?
What about mom?
A mom's job is never over. Her shift doesn't end at 5pm. Mom wakes up with her feet hitting the floor running full speed ahead before her feet actually even hit the floor. She doesn't stop until she pillows her head at night and even then her mind is making the next days' priority list before she can fall asleep.
If the husband worked his job overtime all his life what kind of a man would that make him for when he is at home?
Daddy gets to come home, put his feet up and watch some sports, or read the paper, perhaps enjoy a good book. Every night. Typically the husband spends a few hours on Saturday to mow the lawn, check the fluids in the family van, and clean the garbage barrels out. But the rest of the time is his to enjoy as he pleases.
So, a mom might want some time a few hours a week to go to a Scrapping Event, a Pampered Chef party, or out for coffee with a few friends.
Or perhaps mom wants to blog. And if mom's blog is a money maker, she is still working. But if she enjoys this in her free time, then she deserves that 'free time' to blog.
Yes, we need to prioritize that time well. With all the work a mom does it could become a temptation to spend more time on blogging than she really needs to, but perhaps she is overwhelmed and needs some escape. Maybe blogging is her "Me Time" where she can rest, enjoy some funny mom bloggers, catch up with friends through Twitter, or continue her knowledge of how to homeschool better. Maybe she reads blogs for her spiritual time with the Lord as she ponders the inspiration from Ann Voskamp, Emily Freeman, or Serena Woods.
So don't let the legalistic trap yoke you into bondage of no "Me Time". A mom NEEDS her "Me Time", just like daddy does. It's ok to have some time to refresh ourselves, so we can come back to the home and family life and be encouraged to continue on in our domestic careers.
In my free time I enjoy:
Coffee at a cafe with friends (by the way my best friends are my daughters)
What do you enjoy?
What do you enjoy?
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